A new partner arrives at the line in the sand
Philip Basche (Guest) · 17:31
Um, as it turns out, at the same time, um, another— my partner came into my life, a new partner with whom I, I'm still with. Um, so that was sort of like a, a line in the sand saying, right now I've got a new, a new relationship, a new partner, and both our desire was to do a lot of travel and And that's what we did for the next 20 years. And to be honest, I'm not sure I can travel again after the last year or so. But if I can't, then that's just the way it is. You know, I've been very, very fortunate in what I've been able to do, and I've loved every minute of it. So yeah, and that's— and also the fact that I, you you know, had an ambition and I had a business coach who said, this is where I've got to get to financially to be able to retire. And that's what I did. Yeah, so it just worked out that way.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 18:34
Again, you had good people around you, didn't you?
Philip Basche (Guest) · 18:37
Aveline, I have to say to you, yeah, that is, that so much is what we really need to instill in our community. That we're all here for everybody else. You know, we're not here just for ourselves. We are here to help other people because the feeling you get when you're able to do that is unbelievable. So I've been first— I've experienced that firsthand with the people around me. And I suppose if I could just wave a magic wand, I'd get everybody trained in our community to be able to sit and listen to other people's stories and, you know, just help people get through the issues they've got.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 19:28
How important was it at the time you met your new partner for her to come into your life to help you, like, partner with you and give you that sense of— well, all the things that a new relationship brings? To start that new phase. You know, partners— and that's the question is because obviously we're talking about having the right people around us, and our partners, whether it's a business partner or a life partner, are just so critical.
Philip Basche (Guest) · 19:58
Look, it was 6, 9 months after I started my relationship with Katrina that she was sitting next to me and said, you've had 7. And I said to her, you'd better leave now because this may not be very nice. And still, 20-odd years later, she's still here. So again, my belief in people, my belief in people is just, it's indescribable because that is so important. And, you know, I could go on forever about people, but I'm so aware of how important it is for everybody to have someone in their lives. Somebody, some, anyway.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 20:44
Yeah, for sure. What did the doctors say to you after the bypass operation? What kind of outlook did they give you? Was it a negative one?
Philip Basche (Guest) · 20:56
They didn't, and they never have. And even now I say to, I have two cardiologists because I'm a bit greedy, um, and I say to each of them, you know, what's the prognosis? And that they understandably won't answer that. Um, but you know, I, I feel this time last year I was in hospital and having some serious operation. 12 months later, I'm feeling like the best I've felt for about 7 or 8 years. And so I just, I've just finished a 10-kilometer walk, um, and I don't feel the effects of having done that. So again, you just got to get on with it. When you can get on with it, you get on with it. There's always the inkling in the back of your mind that when's this going to end, but you try and dismiss that. You try and dismiss that and put good things in your life, put good people in your life. That's what makes a difference.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 22:00
Have you always had a really strong state of mind, as in that belief in yourself and your life?
Philip Basche (Guest) · 22:09
Yeah, yeah, I have, I have. I, I've, I've had a moment of depression, uh, which lasted around about 2 weeks just at the time I was leaving my, my ex-wife. Um, but, and so that when people tell me they are suffering depression, I actually know what it means. So I'm really pleased that that happened because I know it's not just, oh, you know, it's nothing. Um, but I haven't— and a lot of people I say that to, Evelyn, they say, aren't you lucky you only had 2 weeks? Um, you know, so I do understand that that sort of thing is, is real. Um, but I got through it. I got through it with friends. And I, you know, I just saw the guy who helped me get through it don't see a lot of him, but I saw him about 2 or 3 weeks ago. And, you know, he was there. He was there. Still a friend. I mean, yeah, yeah. Okay.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 23:04
And I'm looking at your face as you're talking about him, and it just lights up with just such joy and love and gratitude. So for those that are listening to this and aren't watching the video, I just want you to know that Philip's face just glowed when he was talking about his friend there. And that, it's just beautiful. And that's why, you know, you're here. You're here because your friends helped you get here and helped you live your life.
Philip Basche (Guest) · 23:33
I have to say yes, but the other thing I would absolutely say, and I hear this so often, that, you know, people do not understand the importance of exercise. You know, that is just absolutely critical to our lives. So for those two things, I'm so ever grateful. Yeah.
Aveline Clark (Host) · 23:52
When did you start the exercise? When did that become a big thing in your life?
Philip Basche (Guest) · 23:57
When I was about 30. When I was about 30, I played rugby when I was at school. And I'm 6 foot 2, and I'm quite a strong person. But about 30, and so it's always been part of my life. It's always been part of my life. And the people who I have around me, friends, all the same. And that's what happens. You collect the same sort of people in your own little village. And that's exactly what happened.